So listening to some friends over the last day made me think of what ol Uncle Ben said to Peter Parker. With great power comes great responsibility. Do we really need to be a superhero to have to know this? I mean we are all not built with superhuman strength, super agility, the ability to leap tall buildings in a single bound.
But you know what we all are capable of…. stopping jack asses from being jack asses. We can stop bullies from bullying and hurting others. We can stop spouse abusers, habitual child abusers, and other trash from hurting or scaring others. Do you need to be some muscle bound giant? NO! Bullies hate being confronted, they hate anyone standing up to them.
Hell even our government hates people standing up to it, but that’s a different thought. My point is bullies are only as powerful as we let them be. I know its scary to stand up to someone, it is sometimes even dangerous. That’s why you work with someone, a friend, a confidante, a counselor, the police. Someone who can help you fight them.
I know its not always easy with the police. Sometimes it becomes a he said/they said. They need proof, they see multiple arguments, they are restricted by laws. There is a whole lot of reasons why they struggle to help. You have outside counselors, abuse centers, etc that usually can help. People find them hard to go to sometimes, they are embarrassed. Then there are neighbors, friends, family who can help but sometimes it is difficult for them.
But why does it have to be difficult? We can see the signs when someone is being intimidated, we have all most likely seen someone get bullied in our lives. Ask yourself, what did you do? Most people will say, I didn’t do anything. I wanted to but was scared, I didn’t know how things would go. I was worried they could hurt me or my family.
Let me help you with this, life is short. You can only die once. Pain is short-lived. Self respect or lack of can DEFINE your life forever. I speak from experience. I have seen bullying in the past, I was bullied myself when I was a little kid. But life, government service, training and such has changed that for me. I am no invincible man, but I refuse to sit idly by and watch someone be made miserable, whether it be child, woman or man by another human being.
I am 6’1″, built like a semi truck, I’m fairly strong, know how to defend myself quite well and unfortunately have seen battle and death and lived through it. It has lent me courage to take on abusers, bullies and others that would pick or abuse someone who is weaker. That is my great power, no matter what I refuse to see someone who is weaker be pushed around, harassed or made to feel inadequate. Yes I have been hurt, and yes I have had physical altercations. No it is not always easy, and yes it hurts a lot sometimes. But when one or two people stand up, it is strength. Bullies hate strength or someone standing up to them.
I would love to tell you it is easy, it isn’t. But will you look at yourself in the mirror everyday knowing you didn’t stand up for someone or protect or help someone? How will you feel if someday that is you needing help, will you want people turning a blind eye or someone helping you when you need it?
You don’t have to be a superhero. You don’t have to be a bodybuilder or some big MMA fighter or martial arts master. What you need is to be able to stand up, tell someone NO!. Stop someone from hurting someone. We all have this superpower…. its up to you on how you use it. You can live your life like a superhero or you can help be the villain. The question is, how will you look at yourself?
Dave Lizewski: The three assholes, laying into one guy while everybody else watches? And you wanna know what’s wrong with me? Yeah, I’d rather die… so bring it on!